BuiLD is dedicated to helping an individual improve their independence from an unhelpful addictive behaviour - and to support their Family or Friend in their effort. Some experts consider addiction to be a disease, some do not. A BuiLD tool might help me regardless of whether or not I believe an unhelpful addictive behaviour is a disease. At BuiLD the focus is on the impact the unhelpful addictive behaviour is having on my life.
The belief is that, while I may have a problematic habit, I am “more” than "just" this habit – therefore the use of a label is discouraged. I am asked to refrain from using “diseased,” “alcoholic,” “addict,” “dry-drunk,” or “co-dependent,” etc.
It is believed that by focusing on MY own thought, feeling, need, and behaviour I might make my own life more manageable. While there is no guarantee, I might find that altering a behaviour of mine, might have a more helpful positive effect on my Loved One’s behaviour and choice.
Nagging, pleading and threatening have been shown to often be counter-productive - whilst they are often a COMMON HUMAN response to an Unhelpful Addictive Behaviour. I am after all HUMAN.
The book by Robert J. Myers is recommended - Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives to Nagging, Pleading, and Threatening
And the book by Jeffrey Foote et al is highly recommended also - Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change
At a BuiLD Family or Friend Meeting I might discover:
What Might Be Helping Or Hurting?
Who Is Caring For Me, The Carer?
What Might I Be Saying To Myself?
How Might I Question My COMMON Human Thinking?
How Might I Spot My COMMON Unhelpful Thinking?
How Might I Use Positive Communication a Little More?
How Might I Set A Healthy Boundary?
How Might I Defend My Healthy Boundary?
How Might I Feel More Safe and Supported?
Might There Be A Helpful Way To Cope with a Lapse?
How Might I Disable Any Enabling?
How Might Trust and Forgiveness Be Built?
How Might I Set a “S.M.A.R.T.” Goal?
How Might I enhance My Power of Choice?
Balanced Life Development
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